Core Values of Conscious Relationships

Don’t try to teach people how to show up in a relationship. Observe how they show up, then choose whether or not to participate in a relationship.

This is not just for romantic relationships.
This applies to all friendships and family dynamics as well.

Which means radical acceptance. Accepting people for who they are today, and then consciously choosing to engage (or not).

Yes, in relationships it’s essential to teach others about your boundaries and how to treat you right. Because no one is you and no one can read your mind.

Yet, there are some qualities, some core values that are not your responsibility to teach, such as:
• Integrity
• Honesty
• Accountability
• Consistency, and
• Healthy Communication.

I call these “5 core values” that are essential to have in every commitment.

These 5 core values are the main pillars of every healthy relationship dynamic that nobody should compromise with when are lacking.

Every relationship has a trial phase in which we must take time to observe whether they have these core values or not, and how aligned is the dynamic with our truth.

And it often shows in a very short time, if we don’t ignore the signs and red flags.

You can not teach people who lack these qualities how to show up fully in a relationship.
You can try, but it’s a losing battle.

You can not expect them to change for your truth either. If you are not content with the person whom you’re trying to build a relationship with today, don’t hold onto false hopes of a change for tomorrow.

If the connection doesn’t align with your values today, do not hold onto the potentiality of a different future.

Oh, people change, of course!
But they might not as well.
And they definitely won’t change FOR YOU.

They will, for themselves, at their own pace. And you don’t need to wait for a possibility that might never happen.

Life is short.
Time is precious.

See everyone for who they are today, and then consciously choose to invest in them or not.